We Are A Voice, Kids Are Listening

Children observe the world they grow in. They learn good, bad, and later shades of gray, through the role models they identify with, and the actions they are exposed to. As parents, this is probably the biggest pressure we should feel. If we want our children to be kind, to not discriminate, to be open-minded, we must lead by example. Life is a cycle, and more often than none, it keeps repeating itself, for better or for worse.

For this reason, and this reason alone, we must not, never, absolutely not at any time, promote hatred, disrespect and undermine others. It’s okay to disagree, to feel anger, but we must always be mindful of how we express it.

As cheesy as it sounds, we must also put forward the good deeds, and show children that we are all empowered to do great things. Great doesn’t mean to change the world. We don’t need to become Nobel Prizes, or fight a war, cure diseases or solve poverty in the world to be worthy of a role model. In fact, if that’s what we teach our kids, they’ll never feel they can do enough and as a result, might not bother trying.

Doing good is not about the size of what you are doing, it’s about feeling enough empathy to lend a helping hand. Even if all that hand does is give a hug, steady some feet. There are no small good deeds.

Even when kids are little and don’t know that much,  they understand that good is better than bad. When they grow older, they are looking up to us to prove it. So that’s what we did.

Last week, a local middle school invited us to talk about the work we are doing with ten Syrian families, in order to help them rebuild their lives. We showed them pictures of us surprising the kids with Halloween candies, teaching them how to use the resources of the public library. We shared all the little things we do to try and help them settle here. In the face of the enormous Syrian crisis, we are not doing much. But to these ten families, our actions matter. They won’t change the world, and we know it. But they’ll help a few people and that’s something.

The kids were amazing and asked so many relevant questions. We answered, to the best of our ability, but got stuck when a voice piped, “Why are they fighting?”.

That’s another thing, adults don’t have all the answers. Sometimes, stuff just don’t make sense.




  1. Rana Shanawani says:

    I love your words Nadege.
    They apply so personally to each and every one of us who is searching for the tiny way to make the world a better place and show our kids to do the same.

  2. “There are no small good deeds.” Well said, Nadege!

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